Where Do Babies Come From? A Guide To Answer Your Child’s Question

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One of the most feared questions a lot of parents dread their child will ask is, “Where do babies come from?”

Raising children to be competent and well-adjusted is a challenge each parent faces. This can be quite problematic to do while balancing your career, housework, and having the time to keep yourself mentally adjusted. However, it’s a path we must take as parents, and it’s far from unachievable.

Kids are inquisitive by nature, and as soon as they acquire the ability to talk, they will assault you with questions about each and every phenomenon that comes to their mind. It is at this point that a lot of parents realize how much there is to know about the world, really.

 

 

 

 

Sure, it seems like a fairly complicated question to answer and an awkward one at that, but it is also a perfectly natural question to ask. Most people’s minds interpret this as a question about sex, but it is a question about life.

Let’s see what the experts recommend when it comes to answering this question and try to shed some light on how to approach it.

Why do kids ask “where do babies come from” at a particular age?

The first step is to take in the child’s question and consider what their mind can comprehend at what age.

Inquisitive toddlers (age 2-3)

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At this very young age, they are usually not inquiring about sex. They’re most likely interested in where babies come from because they’ve noticed babies around, noticed pregnant ladies, or even have a baby brother or sister.

Inquisitive preschoolers (age 3-4)

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At this age, kids are usually aware of concepts of birth, growing up, and they’ve seen these things around them. They’re still too young to understand sex as a concept, so they’re probably not asking about that specifically.

Elementary school kids (age 5-7)

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Kids are a bit more mature and could have picked up the concept of intercourse somewhere. This may lead them to ask questions that are a bit more complex depending on their maturity, but this is not a rule, so listen to their questions with full attention and see what they picked up and what they want to know about exactly.

Kids age 8+

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This is a mature age, and your child will likely ask about sex in particular. They’ve already started socializing, enjoying movies, and other media on their own, so the fact that they picked up the concept along the way is nothing to be surprised about.

What answer should you give to “where do babies come from” at a particular age?

Now that we’re aware of what motivations kids have at particular ages when asking about babies (in most cases), let’s flip the table and see how you should approach answering the questions.

Inquisitive toddlers (age 2-3)

As we mentioned, kids are most likely not inquiring about intercourse at this age, and you should approach your answer with this in mind.

You may explain that mommies go to the hospital to have their babies and wrap the story about baby-making around the act of love. We’ve all seen the movies where parents go, “Well when a mommy and a daddy love each other very much, they have a baby.”

Still, keep in mind that this can confuse the child and make them think that they could have a baby by loving someone, so explain that you need to be quite a bit older for this to happen.

Inquisitive preschoolers (age 3-4)

Again, the chances that the child is explicitly asking about sex is quite low. Still, at this point, kids have seen plants be born from seeds, puppies, kittens, and babies, so an answer that has a bit more information can be given.

Wrapping the answer around the concept of a plant being born from a seed and growing into its own thing is a good idea. No need to go into details, just make a parallel with a concept of seeds and plants growing out of them, and most kids this age will accept this as a valid answer.

Elementary school kids (age 5-7)

We mentioned that kids at this age might ask specifically about sex. If this is the case, you’ll have to make a decision.

If you feel that your child is mature for his/her age at this point, you may want to go into a bit more detail here. Still, make sure that they’ll be able to handle it.

If not, then a good idea is to circumvent the question a bit by focusing on how the baby develops inside mommy’s stomach. There are plenty of appropriate books to show them the step-by-step development process of a baby developing from a seed to a baby.

Kids age 8+

Kids that are 8 or older are mature enough to know about sex, and denying them the information at this point will only motivate them to find the answers to their questions somewhere else.

You don’t want your kids to learn about sex from an unknown source, as they might misinterpret the information or run into information that is too much for them to process properly at their age.

At this point, using proper terms like the womb, penis, and vagina is appropriate as you want your child to understand the specific uses for their body parts and their proper names. Furthermore, make sure you set a tone that doesn’t imply awkwardness.

The goal is to answer their questions and have them come to you again with more complicated issues in the future. If you set a tone that makes them uncomfortable, again, they will find another source to get informed.

Sex is a normal, natural thing, and you should treat it as such in a conversation with your child.

Have a look at this interesting youtube video by “Sexplanations” to get an idea.

Conclusion

First off, if you are reading this, you are being an active parent. The general approach a lot of parents take is to “cross that bridge when they get there.” It’s not a good idea, as you’ll be caught by surprise, and you might fumble your approach because you are not prepared to deal with it.

One of the best pieces of advice we can give you for dealing with these questions at any age is to ask your kid what they think about the subject. This is very important as this will give you insight into what exactly they’re asking about and help you uncover what information they already have.

Kids pick up things at a fantastic rate, and their memory is almost impeccable, so seeing what they already know is always a good idea.

We hope you find our advice useful and that it helps you keep your child appropriately informed when they ask this fundamental question. Keep the information appropriate for their age and strive not to create a stigma about sex.

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